I feel like selfbondage is a waste

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nibrocd
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I feel like selfbondage is a waste

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I feel like self bondage is a waste of time. Specifically after orgasm. Any tips or ideas to help solve this

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I find SB works best when I imagine a scenario like I've been kidnapped (or tied up by a burglar) and tied to a chair or in a hogtie on the floor or on a bed. Blindfolded, gagged however takes his warped mind.

Then once I've cum, rather than struggle to free myself, imagine has the kidnapper finished with me, has the ransom being paid or has the burglar finished searching for my jewellery or not? In either case, if they've not finished with me, then I'll have to wait until they have and carry on struggling to free myself, failing of course, and see how many times I can cum before my (imaginary) captor has finished with me.

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I find it incredibly hard to stay in the bondage after I've cum. I guess it's all about about training the mind?

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If the main or only purpose of SB is climax, then yes- once it's reached interest can quickly fade. The only way I can continue past that point is with an imagination like Petrajane! :D

Kidnapped, blindfolded, gagged & tied or wrapped on a bed. Was the ransom paid? Did something happen to the kidnappers? Maybe ransom wasn't the goal??

Did a burglar find what he or she was searching for and disappear, forgetting about me?

Perhaps I'm a blindfolded and unknowing subject of a photo shoot?

When I registered at a mysterious bondage society I never expected this... can do nothing but squirm while waiting for transport.... ;)

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Simple answer/less verbiage, self-bondage requires IMAGINATION! :lol: Otherwise yeah, it is a waste of time ;)

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nibrocd wrote:I feel like self bondage is a waste of time. Specifically after orgasm. Any tips or ideas to help solve this
Don't orgasm? the idea in the fiction is prolong the longing, wanting, whatever.. it's maybe not possible with todays technology.

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It's VERY possible. Just lock on a chastity device (cheap now from Amazon!) and put the keys where they are unavailable.
Perhaps park your car on the street, leave chastity keys in glove compartment. Lock it, and lock the car!

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happily_locked wrote:It's VERY possible. Just lock on a chastity device (cheap now from Amazon!) and put the keys where they are unavailable.
Perhaps park your car on the street, leave chastity keys in glove compartment. Lock it, and lock the car!

My thoughts exactly, a chastity device. :D

i am kept in a chastity device 24/7 by my Wife, & have been continuously since January 15th of this year. i have had a few chances to do self bondage during this time & look forward to trying new ideas, or old ones that i have proven to work safely & extend the bondage time in them. For example, i use a standing position at times in my highest, 6-1/2" pumps to make it strict. Rope is wrapped & tied under the heels & over the feet to keep the shoes on & the feet together.

My legs are bound together at my ankles, below the knees, above the knees & at the thighs with rope. There is a thick leather belt that locks & has D-Rings every several inches all the way around it. This is very handy for locking my wrist restraints to, especially behind my back. The leather hood, posture collar, blindfold & head harness are all locking. The head harness is connected to a chain that is hooked to an eye bolt in the overhead beam. This keeps me balanced & prevents tipping over.

If i do tip, it isn't very far so there is no tension on my head or neck because i am standing perfectly upright & the chain is tight without any slack. Sometimes i stand on a large, flat, piece of wood with an eye bolt that anchors my feet to prevent any lateral movement. Once this is all set up & locked the last thing i do is bring my wrists together & use padlocks to attach the wrist restraints to the locked belt. i have to wait for the ice timer to drop the key to that last lock to free myself.

This position, even without the chastity device, would prevent me from bringing myself to orgasm until i had reached the full length of time remaining locked. It is very exciting to never know exactly when you are going to be released. Adding more ice means remaining locked for a very long time. The longest i was in this position had been several hours. It really plays with your mind because there is always that doubt whether the rope with the key is hung up on something.

And i never, ever, ever use a gag when i am doing self bondage where i cannot reach the gag & remove it in seconds. It's nice, but i just can't take the chance of choking.

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Orgasm will generally end the desire for bondage - especially in males. The secret for me: Avoid the orgasm. I prefer to ride the edge as long as possible. Orgasms are great but only last a few seconds. The feelings just before orgasm can be frustrating but are quite pleasurable and (with years of practice) I'm able to stay there for a long time.

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Interesting statement, I used to tie myself up to orgasm, but soon learnt that it was the rope around my body that was exciting, so my period of bondage became longer and longer, I then began then to tease my self with electro stimulation on a timer, and over the years learnt that I can hold my self on the edge for up to 45min with a long rest in-between, I can then repeat the pleasure, or I could make it painful to the point that I could not bare it any more, so by mixing pain and pleasure in inescapable bondage makes the desire to break free or stay as you are a mind game. so NO I don't think it's a wast of time.

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Self bondage can almost always be unsatisfactory mainkly because you have if you are sensible set up a method of release in an emergency. If you rely on another person it can add to the session thinking you might need to call on that person or wait for them to find you.
I have only recently started using a timer padlock for my self bondage tortrure sessions. It was cheap and with a small adjustment it cannot be opened without the timer hitting zero.
Now tihs will defeat your orgasm urges and keep you locked for your set time. Just imagine a fully secure bondage scene and then place the padlock in one of the fastenings to your dominant hand. You can now lock up to your hearts content knowing that once the timer runs out or if thsat fails when the battery dies it will unlock as they are designed as fail open.
This means you can be forced to secure yourself for longer than your orgasm and still be locked up. Perhaps going on to another one.
There is only one issue with the cheaper Amazon type padlocks, put them under too much pressure and they pop open, but fit a small hasp on them and you can avoid that failing simply while still maintaining the ease of use and guarantee of relesase. I can supply a photo to anyone that wants to see it.

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What do you feel is the purpose of self bondage here?
It feels to me like the purpose for you is to cum. Once you have done it, you are done and want to be freed.
Not everyone has that dynamic, some like the humiliation, the feeling of helplessness, the denial of orgasm.

I usually end the session of SB after I have cum. I'm in the same camp as you on this. In fact I don't usually use any method that doesn't allow me to quickly get out if needed. No ice keys or similar - my keys are usually nearby within reach.

What I do try to do is set a timer for release. And limit myself to not having permission to cum until that time is reached. You can link this to a video or audio file (i often do SB with wireless headphones in and my phone playing an erotic audio or a video I can see). When the audio or video ends you are allowed to cum, Or, if it is porn, you are allowed to cum when the character in the porn you most identify with cums.

Of course there is a concept of post orgasm torture. That can involve keeping up stimulation after orgasm. Sometimes, if you do it right, you can even cum again...

You can also look at chastity. There are ways to lock chastity on so it can be removed by an app on a phone with a timer. You cannot touch yourself or use any devices on yourself until it unlocks...

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i get you. sometimes after THE orgasm, i lose interest. but sometimes not. it is hard to get same mood everytime.

based on my small experience, i find that it can be prolonged if:

- i havent done it for long time. for example month since last time i do selfbondage. buf if i keep doing it then it easily get bored.

- just makesure you cant get away. you has no choice so the helplessness would naturaly come. ESPECIALLY turn out your escape method not working. i experience this before. use timer lock from aliexpress. by the time it off, i still cant free myself. before already in state of comfort in the position too. bit of panic there and i dragged atleast another half hour and the day getting darker and i already half resigned and half mentally prepared to remain in that position for whole night. if the next day im not working then i already resigned myself to the very moment. got free later after hard try lol.

- i agree on the imagination comment by others here. but for me not just imagination, but the mood too. for example i done a themed selfbondage session. for example on chinese new year celebration, i wear the cheongsam traditional cloth. if your neighbour are chinese and having a celebration, you can take advantage of this too. i place myself near and hidden to them. for example in window just beside their house. make sure they can see the window but not you. other ocassion is i just cosplay and get in the feeling.

just some of my experience and im still newbie honestly.

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Once I have an orgasm, I'm done and don't want to play any more. That's probably typical for males. Any time I do self-bondage, or any time I have been tied up, I haven't been able to get my hands anywhere near my penis, so having an orgasm in bondage was never an option. Maybe I'll try it some time; arrange a situation where I can give myself an orgasm, but then cannot escape for an hour or more. I wonder if I would get back in the mood after a while?

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I am sure the OP isn’t here anymore but if you really think self bondage is a waste, then just don’t do it.
Now if you want to force yourself to stay in restraints for a while, use locking cuffs and don’t attach to anything but leave the keys in a different place in the house.
After an orgasm, you probably will be too tired to struggle to where the keys are but eventually you should recover enough to do it.

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